The Lies My ‘Loverboy’ Told Me: A Survivor’s Voice Against Trafficking and Exploitation
“I kept his identity and those in his ‘network’ a secret from everyone, even law enforcement, thinking that silence would somehow protect me and my family when, in fact, I may have inadvertently put others at risk.”
The red bolded text in this urgent public warning contains direct links to the relevant laws and evidence. This is the quick-read version; however, I am currently writing a more detailed account for the safety of potential victims, with up to Chapter 2 available here.
In a world that often turns a blind eye to victims and the uncomfortable truths of trauma, abuse, sextortion, and trafficking, I found myself trapped in a man's dangerous influence, leaving me in an isolated fog of dissociation, paralyzing fear, severe gaslighting, and deception. For far too long, I labeled my deeply painful and seemingly never-ending experience with Matthew S****n—a native of Newmarket/Toronto, Ontario, now living in Washington, D.C.—and his so-called “friends” as merely ‘heartbreak.’
This ‘relationship’—if you can even call it that—ended in 2019 when I left after he once again made false accusations of “cheating” and derogatory comments about my body. These accusations were part of a years-long pattern of ‘anonymous’ blackmail attempting to force me to conform to their fabricated version of events—the very same ones that Matthew and his “friends” kept accusing me of to my face when it wasn't the truth at all—along with a long list of lies supported by fabricated evidence that destroyed my life, reputation, and multiple award-winning career after these lies ‘mysteriously’ reached my clients following his cyberstalking of my business. (Continued under photo.)
He now has full grey hair, but his is Matthew St***n (now in D.C.) is the victim of cyberstalking, false light defamation, trafficking, sexual assault, and exploitation by his “friends” at the Toronto Zoo, October 2016.
Make no mistake: there is no authentic evidence of any cheating, but that didn’t stop them from creating and publicly releasing tightly cropped, cherry-picked, and edited evidence to make it appear that way, ‘attacking’ me for nearly seven years, from 2016 to at least September of 2024. It wasn’t until I finally spoke out publicly in 2022, attempting to warn other potential victims, that the slow-moving law enforcement, which had not taken me seriously, began to take action. We contacted the media, and they ran with the stories, leading to the arrests of some of their sex cult ‘leaders.’
I’m mostly a shy, book-loving, nerdy woman on the autism spectrum who is now too terrified to date after all this. It’s too hard for me to stomach the idea that other women, especially those like me, might be getting hurt too. I truly believe I’m not the only victim. I’ve personally spoken to over 20 other victims from a support group aimed at giving survivors the knowledge they need to report these crimes, access mental health support, and heal from these terrible experiences. However, the documentary released below indicates that there are likely tens of thousands of victims just from this trafficking and exploitation network alone.
This mental insanity—something they conveniently like to project onto me to frame me as 'crazy' and 'psycho' to discredit me in classic abuser style—began during the now-infamous 'Gamergate' in 2015 with cyberstalking (18 U.S. Code § 2261A), blackmail, and sextortion (18 U.S. Code § 873). It has continued with an aggressive form of intimidation (18 U.S. Code § 1512) and has silenced my 'freedom of speech' through mid-September 2024, despite the 'relationship'—if you can even call it that—ending in 2019. Yes, five years ago.
I’m told by professionals that this subconscious over-simplification is a very “normal” part of the trauma I’ve endured, which helped mask the complexities and pain as a form of coping with the loss of everything they took from me. The abuse has continued with even more coercive control, false reporting to silence me, intimidation (18 U.S. Code § 1512), and numerous very public smear campaigns (28 U.S. Code § 4101) both online and offline, designed to keep me isolated; it’s all part of textbook sextortion, trafficking, and exploitation.
Unfortunately, these cybersmearing campaigns reached my clients and my multiple award-winning business and career, ultimately destroying everything in 2017—100% of the lies being heavily cropped and cherry-picked, weaponized ‘evidence’—if you can even call it that.
This is just a tiny sample of the evidence:
The harsh reality of my situation has prevented me from fully recovering from the trauma they have inflicted on my life. I described a person I met on a gaming forum who left me feeling sad, brokenhearted, and severely dissociated. He spread a heavily cherry-picked version of events to his “friends” and the public, using tactics like “contextomy,” which incited others to attack and dismantle my life as punishment, even though we never dated.
This person was actually my sextortionist and trafficker; the 'love' I was sold was merely a ploy to gain identifiable information that they used to enact a dark form of revenge, all details he hid while defaming me, sharing maybe 1% of the story to frame me as an evil, horrible person. He then used this narrative to frame himself as my victim, which I believe he's used on other victims to gain undeserved empathy; this is why I share large parts of the story that were seemingly intentionally withheld.
My husband and I were well aware of the fuller story—how he portrayed himself as a man okay with polyamory in order to infiltrate our lives, my family, and my social circles, all without ever being introduced. We recognized his efforts to create a misleading narrative as pathological lying. There are no worthy excuses at this point.
He continues to use intimidation tactics to silence me, including false accusations of "non-consensual porn," and recently, in mid-September 2024, he falsely reported my new fan page for my art as a 'fake' page, which I have never engaged in, nor has anything been done to him. The attacks were fueled by his newly crafted “alternative narrative” framing me as a cheater without any evidence, a form of gaslighting and targeting a victim as a group, which unfortunately has become a common type of attack against women in gaming to get them off a man's hobby.
This tactic, similar to Zoë Quinn’s experience during Gamergate, is a form of stochastic terrorism. The term “terrorism” is fitting, as I will explain with evidence, some of which remains confidential to protect ongoing legal matters. Since 2021, I've been silenced repeatedly as I attempted to speak out and warn the public, preventing other potential victims and so others like myself could get a fair shot at protecting themselves. Thanks to support from professionals, I now understand that what I thought was "love" was actually loverboy method grooming, sex trafficking, and psychological abuse by someone linked to pickup artistry and abusive men’s groups in the Manosphere.
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In contrast to the ongoing claims of cyberstalking and defamation, my decision to speak out is rooted not in revenge but in a desire for understanding and change. Their allegations do not reflect who I am.
The realizations of what I have endured have led to profound fear, culminating in a diagnosis of Complex PTSD, severe dissociative disorder, and the possibility of lasting cognitive impacts. Their relentless actions have left me worn down, stifling my voice and limiting my potential. The cyberstalking aimed at isolating me has taken its toll.
In keeping the identities of my tormentor and their network hidden, I believed silence would shield my family and me. In reality, this silence may have endangered others, stripping away the broader context needed to understand the situation. If I remain quiet now, I only perpetuate this cycle of silence.
Communicating my experiences to law enforcement has proven to be a significant hurdle, particularly as a woman on the autism spectrum, where communication barriers often intensify my suffering. I discovered too late that my struggles to articulate my experience were intertwined with my neurodivergence and the trauma I endured. This silence may have allowed additional suffering, a weight I carry with great difficulty. While I’ve tried to raise awareness, my pleas have often been dismissed, leaving me to grapple with their indifference. Justice is slowly emerging, aided by media attention rather than the agencies that overlooked us.
One department even lost vital evidence, complicating my struggles for years. It wasn’t until 2022 that I began to confront my experiences honestly, sharing them for the sake of understanding and protection. Acknowledging my truth has offered a sense of liberation. Writing has allowed me to articulate what I found difficult to express verbally, and I hope to foster empathy for those who, like me, struggle with expressing their pain, particularly those with cognitive and neurological challenges.
Society often undermines victims, creating a challenging environment for trust, especially when the perpetrator is of the same gender. By sharing my story, I aim to reassure others that they are not alone. The internet has become my platform, amplifying my voice and helping me reach those who may find solace in my journey. I want to be a source of hope for those at risk—be it a vulnerable young girl, an isolated individual seeking affection that becomes sextortion, or a teenager caught in a web of manipulation.
A potential legal delay will not disrupt my mission to raise awareness. If my words can help even one person recognize the signs of exploitation, the suffering I’ve endured will hold significance. There is no shame in being misled; true strength lies in sharing and learning from those experiences. By naming my reality—‘loverboy’ grooming and trafficking—I reclaim my narrative.
My story transcends the passions and career that were disrupted by exploitation. It serves as a testament to resilience and a call for others to acknowledge their experiences and seek understanding and support. By letting go of defensiveness, we can build a community rooted in teaching, healing, and advocacy. In sharing our truths, we not only transform our scars into stories but also work toward ensuring that no one is left voiceless.
If we can voice the unspeakable, we not only begin to heal ourselves but also forge a future where no one—whether child, teen, or adult—has to suffer in silence.
If you’re in the US and need someone to talk to about an experience with sexual assault or abuse, you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). You can also access 24/7 help online by visiting online.rainn.org.
*Reader discretion is advised. As per laws surrounding victims who chose to share their stories publicly, all claims are “alleged”; however, relevant evidence that can be shared publicly is also being shown to assist others in forming their own conclusions about the reality of the story. This site shares a true story based on real events that are categorized by the date around which they happened as accurately as possible. It covers traumatic topics such as loverboy method grooming, sex trafficking, exploitation, severe and long-term mental abuse, public and private defamation, public exposures with tampered evidence, and sexual violence, mainly for intimidation and punishment for speaking out. It may trigger strong emotions and flashbacks in those with similar trauma; please prioritize your well-being before proceeding. Some details have been altered for privacy, clarity, and brevity, but the essential context remains intact.
